Hehehehehehehe! Men are clever, they guaranteed themselves wives by making sure society emphasises on the need for women to get married. Marriage is good if it is consensual and adds value to a woman‘s life. My advice to you is that, seek education and personal advancement first before being entangled in marriage, but the sequence is not written in stone. I know some married women who have taken charge of their lives and have become forces to reckon with in the maths and science fields.
I am of the firm belief that an educated woman will bring more to a marriage than an uneducated one. Pursue your dreams first, do not live a life of regret. Go for your dream.
Do not get me wrong, marriage is good but not an end in itself. Getting married should not be the ultimate goal that defines you as a girl. Marriage is a partnership that should be able to propel you to greater heights of joy, fulfilment and dream-chasing.
"I think it is a duty I owe to my profession and to my sex to show that a woman has a right to the practice of her profession and cannot be condemned to abandon it merely because she marries." Harriet Brooks , 1906.
No one should ever force you to get married, I know family and friends will start asking questions about when you are going to get married when you reach a certain age. Achieve something and they will see the fruits of your labour. Get married only when you want to and are old enough for it.
I have frequently been questioned, especially by women, of how I could reconcile family life with a scientific career. Well, it has not been easy‖.- Marie Curie
Fight all those stereotypes labelling girls as dependent on men. We are all equal and we should co-exist on a level playing field. Girls are good in maths and science.
One of the absurd comments I heard (ranks second after the one above about being blonde for your man) was that only lesbians and tomboys pursue engineering, science and maths careers. Ladies should pursue the less rigorous subjects and careers. Just earn money to buy groceries, the husband is the MAN and the primary bread-winner. This is crazy, mad! In no way is this true. This is what I call a fundamental fallacy. Girl, get out of that thinking and work your way to the top. You can be anything you want to be. Self-reliance is the highest level of freedom. Do not be bottled, unleash your potential in your career of choice.
All this hogwash about girls who use tools or apparatus in manual jobs will break their nails or hurt themselves and won‘t find a man is not value–adding to your life. Do that which makes you happy and edifies you.
I have no dress except the one I wear every day. If you are going to be kind enough to give me one, please let it be practical and dark so that I can put it on afterwards to go to the laboratory.- Marie Curie